Coaching practices for Notice and Name Emotions

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I can name what I’m feeling but it still has me by the throat
• I can tell I’m off — short with people, tight, reactive — but if you asked me what I’m actually feeling I couldn’t say, and I want to slow down enough to even know what’s going on in me.
• Something just hit me and I’m flooded
• I can name what I’m feeling now, but I still react the exact same automatic way every time
• Everything just comes out as "stressed" or "I feel bad," and that catch-all blob never tells me what to actually do

Practices that may help

1. Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
   Labeling — naming what the other person seems to be feeling before any argument or ask — reduces the emotional intensity of the feeling and makes the other party feel understood, which lowers their defenses. Affect-labeling research (Lieberman et al., 2007) shows that putting feelings into words reduces amygdala activity; Chris Voss built this into FBI hostage-negotiation practice. The technique is most powerful when the label is accurate and delivered without judgment.
2. Dual labeling: name both the emotion word and its body location
   Follow an emotion word with its body location: "Anxiety — tight chest and held breath."
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
3. R — Recognize what is happening
   Pause and name what is actually present: "Fear is here," "Anger is here," "Shame is here."
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
4. Simple affect label: say the emotion word aloud or in writing
   When emotionally activated, say or write one clear emotion word — "fear," "anger," "grief" — before doing anything else.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
5. Label first, then choose your response
   Use the named feeling as data for a deliberate next move, not an automatic reaction.
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
6. Granular labeling: move from broad to specific emotion words
   Replace "stressed" or "bad" with the most specific emotion word you can find.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
7. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
   Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
8. Noting emotional states — "agitation," "fear," "joy," "boredom"
   Label the emotional tone present during meditation — "boredom," "agitation," "restlessness," "sadness" — before returning attention.
   Noting Practice, Made Practical
9. Label the negative feeling they haven’t said out loud
   Labeling what someone is clearly feeling but hasn’t named gives them permission to acknowledge it.
   Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
10. Label emotions during conflict to reduce escalation
    Name your own and the other person’s emotional state during a tense conversation to prevent escalation.
    Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice

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