Coaching practices for Offering Help to an Online Friend Who Just Lost Their Parent
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Nobody in my life gets this kind of loss, and I’m starting to ache for even one person who’s been through the exact same thing and wouldn’t need me to explain why it matters.
- They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
- There’s so much I never got to say to them, and so much happening now I wish I could tell them
- My partner is going through a huge change right now
- Someone I love is suffering and there is nothing I can actually do to fix it, and that helplessness is unbearable
Practices that may help
- Find a community that recognises your specific loss
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Speak or write to the person directly
Address the deceased in letters, journal entries, or internal dialogue as a form of active continuing connection.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Update your love map after major life changes
When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Direct tonglen toward a specific suffering person
Bring a person who is suffering to mind and breathe in their pain; breathe out whatever would give them relief.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Don’t make it about you
Resist the reflex to relate by topping their story with your own.
Holding Space - Identify and address secondary stressors
Name the practical, identity, and relational challenges the loss has created — and work on them as restoration.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Reconstruct your identity post-loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
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Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
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Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
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