Coaching practices for Okrs for People Not Just Companies During Conflict

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• The moment we start arguing, any sense that I actually like and respect this person evaporates
• This rift has poisoned the whole family and nobody can fix it one-on-one anymore
• Our group rushes straight to “so what do we do about it,” and we’re trying to solve something nobody has actually been allowed to tell their side of yet
• We’re trying to settle this just between the two of us, but the truth is a whole group felt the fallout and their trust took a hit too
• Every disagreement turns into me versus them, like we’re opponents trying to win instead of two people up against the same problem

Practices that may help

1. OKRs for People, Not Just Companies
   OKRs pair an Objective — a qualitative, ambitious statement of what you want — with a few measurable Key Results that prove you got there. The framework is best known from Intel and Google as an organizational tool, but its core moves (ambitious goals, hard metrics, a regular review cadence) rest on goal-setting principles that have genuine research support.
2. Protect fondness actively during and after conflict
   Conflict is the test of PSO — deliberately hold the positive frame while the negative one is loudest.
   Positive Sentiment Override: How to Build the Lens That Protects Relationships
3. Facilitated reconciliation circle
   Bring all affected parties together with a neutral guide to name harm, ask forgiveness, and restore relationship.
   Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation
4. Use a storytelling round to build mutual understanding before solving
   Before moving to resolution, give each person a round to tell their experience of what happened.
   The Circle Process (Kay Pranis)
5. Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
   Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
   Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
6. Fight the problem, not each other
   Reorient conflict so both partners face the problem together rather than facing each other.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
7. Responding to conflict without escalation
   In a conflict, address the problem without attacking the person.
   Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice
8. Separate the person from the problem
   Treat the conflict as a problem you face together, not a contest you fight each other.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
9. Engage in productive ideological conflict
   Teams that avoid conflict don’t avoid disagreement — they bury it, where it grows into resentment and bad decisions.
   The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical
10. Transform the relationship, not just the issue
    Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
    The Third Alternative, Made Practical

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