Coaching practices for Own Your Choices

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • There’s a decision I keep half-defending with a fog of "well, the circumstances, the other people, what else could I have done"
  • I’m facing a real decision and I realize I’m about to choose what my family or my role or "what one does" expects of me, not what I actually value
  • I look at the big shape of my life
  • I’m torn over a decision and I genuinely can’t tell if I want this or if I just want them to approve
  • I start browsing before I’ve worked out what I actually want, and the flashy features of whatever I see first quietly rewrite what I think I’m looking for

Practices that may help

  1. Take radical responsibility for your choices
    Own every choice completely — including its unintended consequences and the unchosen conditions within which you chose.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  2. Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
    Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  3. Audit whether you are living your life or someone else’s
    Identify the places where your choices reflect others’ expectations rather than your own values.
    The Regret of the Dying
  4. Locate where you’re authored from
    Notice whether your current decision is driven by others’ expectations or by your own internal standard.
    Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
  5. Elicit your real standards before you look
    Write down what a good outcome actually requires before options are visible.
    Choice Overload, Made Practical
  6. Treat your decision as more final than it is
    Mentally close off the "undo" option to stop rumination and increase satisfaction.
    Choice Overload, Made Practical
  7. Spot bad faith in yourself
    Notice when you are treating yourself as a thing determined by role, instinct, or expectation — and claim the choice.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  8. Commit and stop re-evaluating
    Once you’ve chosen, close the door instead of reopening the comparison.
    Satisficing vs. Maximizing: When “Good Enough” Wins
  9. The practice of self-responsibility
    Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  10. Settling on purpose
    Make a real, binding choice instead of keeping every option open forever.
    Four Thousand Weeks, Made Practical

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