Coaching practices for Owning Your Mistake

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• Every time I say sorry I can’t resist tacking on "but you were also..." or "but I only did it because..."
• I dropped the ball and now I can feel myself about to bury the admission in a whole paragraph of reasons why it wasn’t really my fault
• We’re both waiting for the other to admit their part first, so nothing moves
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find whose fault it was, and being right about that leaves me stuck
• I extend everyone else this generosity, but when I mess up I go straight to "I’m lazy, I’m a failure, this is just who I am"

Practices that may help

1. Take responsibility without the “but”
   Own your part fully; the word “but” deletes everything before it.
   The Art of Apology
2. Own mistakes promptly and without over-explanation
   A fast, clean acknowledgment of error lands better than a slow, elaborate defense.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
3. Own your share of the rupture
   Name your specific contribution to the break — without making it a competition over who was worse.
   Rupture and Repair
4. Take extreme ownership of outcomes — even ones that aren’t your fault
   Claiming ownership of everything in your domain — even external failures — is the fastest path to fixing them.
   Discipline Equals Freedom: Jocko Willink's Framework
5. Apply the razor to yourself
   Extend to your own past actions the same charitable interpretation you give others.
   Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain
6. Negative assertion (own your mistakes calmly)
   Acknowledge a real fault plainly, without crumbling into excessive apology or shame.
   Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
7. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
8. The practice of self-responsibility
   Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
9. Review without self-condemnation — distinguish judgment from condemnation
   Name what you did wrong precisely, without story or self-attack — then close it.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
10. Take radical responsibility for your choices
    Own every choice completely — including its unintended consequences and the unchosen conditions within which you chose.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice

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