Coaching practices for Panic Surfing After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- A while after one passes, all that’s left in my memory is how terrifying the worst moment was
- I gave in, and now I’m tearing into myself
- When something I love gets taken away I’m always blindsided, like I assumed it would last forever
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- The instant it hits in a store or a meeting, the only thought is get out now
Practices that may help
- Panic Surfing
Panic surfing is the practice of allowing panic to peak and pass without fighting it, fleeing the situation, or using safety behaviors — based on the understanding that panic attacks are physiologically self-limiting and cannot escalate indefinitely. The approach is drawn from panic treatment research and from acceptance-based models; it is one of the most effective behavioral components of modern panic disorder treatment. - Conduct a post-panic review to counter catastrophic memory
After every attack, record what actually happened — because anxiety memory is biased toward danger.
Panic Surfing - Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving
Urge surfing means treating a craving like a wave — observing it rise, peak, and fall instead of either fighting it or acting on it. Drawn from Alan Marlatt’s mindfulness-based relapse prevention, it works because urges are time-limited and pass on their own when not fed. It is a well-established clinical technique for everyday cravings; for serious addiction, it belongs alongside professional support, not instead of it. - Self-compassion when the wave wins
When you act on the urge before the wave passes, treat the lapse with compassion — not as evidence of permanent failure.
Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical - Premeditate adversity (the Stoic root)
Briefly and regularly rehearse loss and difficulty in advance, before any specific decision.
Fear-Setting, Made Practical - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Stay in the situation for the full arc
Leave only after the attack has peaked and begun to subside — not in the middle, no matter how strong the urge.
Panic Surfing - Pre-commit to a rule before the loss is live
Decide your action in a cool moment so the hot, loss-averse moment cannot hijack it.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Zoom out from the single loss to the aggregate
A loss looks catastrophic in isolation and trivial across the whole portfolio of your life.
Loss Aversion, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Big Rocks First After A Loss
Stephen Covey's "big rocks" framework argues that the most important activities must be scheduled first — before smaller, urgent demands fill the available time. The metaphor holds: if you put sand in the jar first, the rocks don't fit. The method is not about doing more; it is about protecting your most important work from being crowded out by activity that feels urgent but is not truly important.
- Panic Surfing After A Setback
Panic surfing is the practice of allowing panic to peak and pass without fighting it, fleeing the situation, or using safety behaviors — based on the understanding that panic attacks are physiologically self-limiting and cannot escalate indefinitely. The approach is drawn from panic treatment research and from acceptance-based models; it is one of the most effective behavioral components of modern panic disorder treatment.
- Panic Surfing With Friends
Panic surfing is the practice of allowing panic to peak and pass without fighting it, fleeing the situation, or using safety behaviors — based on the understanding that panic attacks are physiologically self-limiting and cannot escalate indefinitely. The approach is drawn from panic treatment research and from acceptance-based models; it is one of the most effective behavioral components of modern panic disorder treatment.
- Urge Surfing Panic
Panic surfing is the practice of allowing panic to peak and pass without fighting it, fleeing the situation, or using safety behaviors — based on the understanding that panic attacks are physiologically self-limiting and cannot escalate indefinitely. The approach is drawn from panic treatment research and from acceptance-based models; it is one of the most effective behavioral components of modern panic disorder treatment.
- Attention Management After A Loss
Labeling "this is loss aversion talking" turns an automatic reflex into a choice.
Name the feeling to defuse the reflex
- Deep Work After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
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