Coaching practices for Deep Work After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- Something I built my life around has ended
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- My memories of them and of how it happened come at me in scattered, jagged pieces with no order to them, and I keep replaying the end on a loop
Practices that may help
- Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Premeditate adversity (the Stoic root)
Briefly and regularly rehearse loss and difficulty in advance, before any specific decision.
Fear-Setting, Made Practical - Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum)
Briefly imagine losing what you have, so you stop taking it for granted and brace for setbacks.
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Recognize and reinvest in deepened relationships
Notice which relationships grew closer through the hardship, and deliberately invest back in them.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
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- Awe And Well Being After A Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- Grief Style Intuitive Instrumental
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
- How To Get Over Grief Of Losing A Dog
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- How To Overcome Grief And Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- Nature And Movement After A Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
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