Coaching practices for Pendulation During a Big Change

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• It’s the ordinary stuff that catches me off guard
• My tolerance for any hard feeling is paper-thin
• I’ve got a big move (or a new job) coming up in a couple of months, and I can feel it’s a rare chance to start fresh
• There are these little hinge moments
• Whenever I let myself touch the hard feeling at all, I get pulled all the way under and flooded

Practices that may help

1. Pendulation, Made Practical
   Pendulation is a Somatic Experiencing term for the deliberate oscillation between a difficult or activated body sensation and a neutral or comfortable resource — a place in the body that feels okay right now. Moving back and forth between the two, rather than staying fixed in the difficult sensation, trains the nervous system to tolerate distress in small doses and recover, gradually widening the window of tolerance. The approach is established clinical practice in SE; large RCT evidence specific to pendulation is limited.
2. Apply pendulation to everyday stress (not just trauma)
   Pendulation works for any activated state — anxiety before a call, frustration during a project — not only clinical trauma.
   Pendulation, Made Practical
3. Use repeated pendulation to widen the window of tolerance
   Over weeks of practice, pendulation expands the range of activation you can tolerate without tipping into flooding or shutdown.
   Pendulation, Made Practical
4. Identify and anticipate upcoming transition windows
   Treat approaching life changes as scheduled opportunities for habit installation — plan before the transition, not after.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
5. Exploit micro-transitions within your day as mini fresh-start moments
   Use daily transition points — arriving home, finishing a meeting, taking a break — to deliberately shift behavior rather than defaulting to the old pattern.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
6. Pendulation: moving between states gently
   Shift between a regulated and a less regulated state in small steps rather than forcing a leap.
   The Ladder of Regulation: Navigating Your Autonomic States
7. Understand why systems oscillate — and stop overcorrecting
   Delayed feedback loops and overreaction to perceived gaps cause the boom-bust cycles in your own system.
   Stocks and Flows
8. The Habit Discontinuity Effect
   The habit discontinuity effect, studied by Phillippa Lally and Bas Verplanken among others, shows that environmental disruptions — moving house, changing jobs, starting university — weaken the contextual cues that sustain existing habits, creating a window of increased behavior malleability. Evidence comes primarily from observational and survey studies; the effect appears real but its magnitude varies considerably by habit type and individual.
9. Regulate the oscillation consciously
   If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
10. Anchoring equanimity in impermanence
    When difficulty or pleasure arises, add the silent note "this too will change" — not as denial but as accurate perception.
    Upekkha: Cultivating Equanimity in Meditation and Life

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