Coaching practices for Positive Discipline Jane Nelsen After a Setback
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- We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
- There are certain moments
- I just hit a real failure
- The second I slip I tear into myself
- The second I slip up I tear into myself, and that "I’ve blown it, I always do this" feeling is exactly what turns one bad choice into the whole day, the whole week gone
Practices that may help
- Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited. - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal
Build a routine for bouncing back so setbacks don’t end the pursuit.
Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed - Pair the rule with self-compassion, not self-criticism
Respond to a miss with kindness and a plan, which rebounds faster than harsh self-talk.
The Two-Day Rule: Never Skip Twice - Respond to willpower failures with self-compassion
Self-criticism after lapses undermines future self-control; self-compassion predicts better recovery.
The Willpower Instinct: What Self-Control Actually Is - Use a brief reset rather than escalating consequences
A short, calm time-out ends the incident without energizing it.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Treat failure as data, not verdict
A failed experiment that teaches you something is a successful experiment.
Tiny Experiments: Testing Change Without Committing to It - Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum)
Briefly imagine losing what you have, so you stop taking it for granted and brace for setbacks.
Stoicism, as a Set of Practices - Attributional Retraining, Made Practical
Attributional retraining is a structured intervention that teaches people to explain failures and setbacks in more controllable, unstable, and specific ways — shifting from "I’m bad at this" to "I need a different strategy." Research, particularly from Carol Dweck and Bernard Weiner, shows this shift reliably improves persistence and academic achievement, with effects that are clinically meaningful in some populations.
Related concerns
- Positive Discipline Jane Nelsen After A Loss
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
- Positive Discipline Jane Nelsen Under Stress
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
- Positive Discipline Jane Nelsen When Burned Out
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
- Positive Discipline Jane Nelsen When Overwhelmed
Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
- The Nurtured Heart Approach Howard Glasser After A Setback
Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
- Absence Of Misbehavior
Dreikurs argued that misbehavior is always purposeful — the child is pursuing belonging or significance through a mistaken strategy.
Identify the mistaken goal behind the misbehavior
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