Coaching practices for The Nurtured Heart Approach Howard Glasser After a Setback

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  • I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
  • There are certain moments
  • When a setback hits I’m always blindsided, like I’d quietly assumed everything would just keep going fine
  • I just hit a real failure
  • My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are

Practices that may help

  1. The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
    Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
  2. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
    Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  3. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
    Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  4. Negative visualization (premeditatio malorum)
    Briefly imagine losing what you have, so you stop taking it for granted and brace for setbacks.
    Stoicism, as a Set of Practices
  5. Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal
    Build a routine for bouncing back so setbacks don’t end the pursuit.
    Grit: Passion and Perseverance, Honestly Assessed
  6. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
    Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  7. Access positive emotion during adversity, not after
    In the midst of stress and difficulty, finding even small genuine positive moments is a resilience mechanism, not a betrayal of the difficulty.
    Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
  8. Understand what PTG is — and is not
    Growth from struggling with trauma is real, but it is not guaranteed, not required, and not a silver lining.
    Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical
  9. Domain 2 — New possibilities
    When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
    Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical
  10. Use a brief reset rather than escalating consequences
    A short, calm time-out ends the incident without energizing it.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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