Coaching practices for Positive Discipline Jane Nelsen at Work

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  • We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
  • I lay down a rule and my kids ignore it because it’s "my" rule they had no say in
  • I swing between caving the moment they push back and snapping when I’ve had enough
  • There are certain moments
  • My team only performs when I’m watching, and I keep bolting on more rules to control it, which just makes everything rigid

Practices that may help

  1. Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
    Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
  2. Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
    Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  3. Use family meetings to solve problems together
    When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  4. Be kind AND firm — simultaneously, not alternately
    Kind without firm is permissive; firm without kind is authoritarian. The practice is holding both at once.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  5. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
    Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  6. Build a culture of discipline, not a disciplinarian culture
    Hire self-disciplined people, then give them freedom within a clear framework.
    Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
  7. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
    "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  8. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
    Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  9. Connect before you correct
    A child who feels connected to you is far more receptive to your guidance than one who feels attacked.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  10. Refuse to energize negative behavior
    Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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