Coaching practices for Positive Self Talk Anxiety
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
- The voice in my head when I’m anxious is brutal
- Right in the thick of a panicky moment my head is all "why am I like this, what’s wrong with me," and the more I narrate it as "I, I, I" the more I drown in it
- The second I say "I’m anxious" it lands like a life sentence, like it’s the whole truth of me, and I’m looking for some small trick of words that lets me hold it at arm’s length instead of having it swallow me whole.
- The moment I’m in a room with people I’m trapped watching myself
Practices that may help
- Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Balanced, compassionate self-talk
Talk to yourself as you would to a friend — accurate and kind, not harsh or falsely cheery.
The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical - Talk to yourself in the third person
Use your own name or "you" instead of "I" when working through a hard moment.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Third-person labeling to activate the witness
Refer to yourself by name or in the third person when narrating your experience: "Dan is feeling anxious."
The Witness Stance - Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Prepare coping self-talk in advance
Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
Stress Inoculation Training - Externalizing the Problem
Separate the person from the problem by talking about it as if it exists outside them.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You - Protect the strategy from well-meaning optimism
Recognize that others’ "positive thinking" attempts before your performance will disrupt your preparation — and manage that proactively.
Defensive Pessimism, Made Practical - Strengthen the observing self
Notice that there is a "you" watching your thoughts — that witness is stable even when thoughts are not.
Defusion from Anxious Thoughts - Third-person emotion labeling for self-distancing
Label your emotion using your own name: "Alex is feeling anxious" instead of "I am anxious."
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
Related concerns
- Self Talk For Anxiety
Talk to yourself as you would to a friend — accurate and kind, not harsh or falsely cheery.
Balanced, compassionate self-talk
- Distanced Self Talk Anxiety
Refer to yourself by name or in the third person when narrating your experience: "Dan is feeling anxious."
Third-person labeling to activate the witness
- When Narrative Therapy Externalizing The Problem
Separate the person from the problem by talking about it as if it exists outside them.
Externalizing the Problem
- Coping Self Talk Anxiety
Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
Prepare coping self-talk in advance
- Tactfully Telling Someone That They Are The Reason For Your Anxiety
Talk to yourself as you would to a friend — accurate and kind, not harsh or falsely cheery.
- Ought Self Anxiety
Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
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