Coaching practices for Possible Selves at Work

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Possible Selves at Work, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’ve got this clear, vivid picture of the person I want to become, and I love daydreaming about them
  • The future I want for myself feels so out of reach that part of me has filed it under "people like me don’t get there"
  • I’m still grinding toward a version of "successful me" I dreamed up years ago, and it’s stopped lighting me up
  • The inspiring vision of who I want to be gets me fired up for a day or two and then quietly fades
  • I keep running this other life in my head, imagining how amazing or how awful it would be, but it’s all guesswork

Practices that may help

  1. Possible Selves, Made Practical
    Hazel Markus’s possible-selves framework holds that motivation is driven not only by who we are now but by vivid mental representations of who we could become — including hoped-for and feared future selves. These cognitive structures provide direction and energy for behavior, and deliberately developing them is a tractable approach to sustained motivation.
  2. Build a behavioral bridge to the possible self
    Identify one specific behavior your hoped-for self does that you can do today — then do it.
    Possible Selves, Made Practical
  3. Find living examples of your hoped-for self
    Identify real people who embody your hoped-for self — their existence makes the representation concrete and credible.
    Possible Selves, Made Practical
  4. Update and revise possible selves over time
    Revisit and rewrite your possible selves at least twice a year — the self you need to become changes as you grow.
    Possible Selves, Made Practical
  5. Pair the hoped-for self with a feared counterpart
    Identify the feared version of your future self in the same domain — the pairing produces more sustained motivation than hope alone.
    Possible Selves, Made Practical
  6. Run prototyping conversations before committing to a plan
    Talk to people already living your Plan B or C before you decide whether to pursue it.
    Odyssey Plans: Designing Three Alternative Futures
  7. Write vivid imagined future scenes
    Extend your life story into the future with specific, felt scenes — not just goals.
    Narrative Identity, Made Practical
  8. Borrow an identity temporarily by asking "what would [person] do?"
    Temporarily adopting a role model’s identity in a specific context lowers the friction of acting as they would.
    Identity Priming, Made Practical
  9. Set if-then implementation intentions for goal behaviors
    Specify when, where, and how you’ll act — not just whether you intend to.
    Hyperbolic Discounting — Why Future You Always Gets the Short End
  10. Write a letter from your future self
    Have your 80-year-old self write back about the decision you’re facing now.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework

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