Coaching practices for Post Decision Regret

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  • When I imagine being old and looking back, I don’t think it’s the risky things I tried that I’ll regret
  • A few big regrets keep circling back because they never got an ending
  • All I can feel is how much I’ll regret wasting everything I’ve already put in if I stop
  • I’m agonizing over this choice like it’s carved in stone and I can never come back from it, paralyzed by a downside that has me frozen
  • All I can picture is how much it’ll hurt if I try this and it blows up in my face, so I keep not doing it

Practices that may help

  1. Apply the regret minimization frame
    Ask “Which choice will I regret more at 80?” — people consistently underestimate regret for inactions.
    Status Quo Bias — Why We Stick with the Default
  2. Revisit and reconcile your significant regrets
    Name your regrets explicitly and work through them toward acceptance — not suppression or rumination.
    Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
  3. Use regret minimization as a forward-looking check
    At 80, which will you regret more — stopping now, or having continued into a deeper hole?
    The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Escaping Bad Investments
  4. Check reversibility before you fear the downside
    Most decisions are reversible; reserve maximum caution for the few that aren’t.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework
  5. Weigh action regret against inaction regret
    Over a lifetime, the regrets that linger are usually the things you didn’t do.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework
  6. Name the values the regret is about
    Regret points at a violated value — make the value explicit.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework
  7. Reduce opportunity-cost thinking
    Stop calculating what every rejected option "costs" you — it amplifies regret for no gain.
    Choice Overload, Made Practical
  8. Treat your decision as more final than it is
    Mentally close off the "undo" option to stop rumination and increase satisfaction.
    Choice Overload, Made Practical
  9. Use the 10-year horizon as a regret test
    Ask: in 10 years, will I regret not doing this more than doing it?
    The 10-10-10 Rule
  10. Project to age 80 and look back
    Ask which choice your 80-year-old self will least regret.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework

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