Coaching practices for Post Mortem Case Studies

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• I want to look back from the very end of my life and ask honestly what I actually did with my time
• Lately I keep catching myself aware that my time is running out, and instead of letting it scare me I want to actually sit with it for a few minutes and let it show me what I’d most regret never having done.
• There’s so much I never got to say to them, and so much happening now I wish I could tell them
• My memories of them and of how it happened come at me in scattered, jagged pieces with no order to them, and I keep replaying the end on a loop
• They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on

Practices that may help

1. Write a brief final accounting
   Write as if you’re reporting on your life: what did you do with your time?
   Memento Mori: Using Mortality Awareness to Focus What Matters
2. The Pre-Mortem: Imagine It Already Failed
   A pre-mortem, developed by psychologist Gary Klein, has a team imagine that a plan has already failed and then work backward to explain why — before any work begins. The technique exploits "prospective hindsight": research found that imagining an outcome as a certainty makes people generate more, and more specific, reasons for it, surfacing risks that ordinary risk assessment misses.
3. The Regret of the Dying
   Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative care nurse, documented the most common regrets of dying patients in her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. The themes — especially living others’ expectations, working too hard, suppressing feelings, and neglecting friendships — are consistent with broader research on regret and well-being. The evidence is qualitative and self-reported; treat it as wisdom data, not clinical data.
4. Memento Mori: Using Mortality Awareness to Focus What Matters
   Memento mori — "remember you will die" — is the Stoic practice of keeping mortality in view as a clarifier: trivial concerns shrink and important ones become urgent when measured against a real deadline. Used well, it sharpens values and action; used badly, it slides into death anxiety. The psychological evidence is genuinely mixed — mortality awareness can produce either defensiveness or value-driven clarity depending on the person and how the awareness is held.
5. Terror Management Theory, Made Practical
   Terror management theory (TMT), developed by Greenberg, Pyszczynski, and Solomon from Ernest Becker’s work, holds that awareness of mortality is a pervasive driver of human motivation: people buffer death anxiety by bolstering self-esteem and embracing cultural worldviews that promise symbolic or literal immortality. Hundreds of experiments support the core "mortality salience" effect, though its real-world magnitude and the best personal response remain debated.
6. Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
   Continuing bonds theory, developed by Dennis Klass and colleagues, holds that maintaining an ongoing inner relationship with the deceased — through memory, ritual, and internalised connection — is a normal and often adaptive part of grief, not a sign of pathology. Observational research supports this for many types of connection, though some forms (active searching, idealisation) are associated with poorer outcomes.
7. Deliberate mortality reflection
   Briefly contemplate your finite lifespan to surface what actually matters to you.
   Terror Management Theory, Made Practical
8. Speak or write to the person directly
   Address the deceased in letters, journal entries, or internal dialogue as a form of active continuing connection.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
9. Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
   Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
10. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
    Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical

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