Coaching practices for Prochaska Relapse

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I slipped after weeks of doing well and the shame hit so hard I just threw the whole thing out and went back to square one
• I’ve held this change for a while and feel good about it overall, but there are specific moments
• I gave in, and now I’m tearing into myself
• On an ordinary day I’m fine, but there are these few predictable danger zones
• I miss one day and that’s the whole thing dead

Practices that may help

1. Treat relapse as a predictable part of the process, not a failure
   Most people cycle through the stages several times before achieving lasting change — plan for it.
   The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
2. Track your temptation-to-confidence ratio
   Confidence in your ability to resist temptation must outpace the pull of the old behavior.
   The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
3. Self-compassion when the wave wins
   When you act on the urge before the wave passes, treat the lapse with compassion — not as evidence of permanent failure.
   Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
4. Pre-plan for high-risk moments
   Identify the situations most likely to trigger relapse and script your response in advance.
   Habit Substitution: Swap the Routine, Keep the Reward
5. Write a recovery if–then for when you slip
   "If I miss [behavior], then I will [specific recovery action] within [time window]."
   If–Then Planning, Made Practical
6. Conduct a habit audit after any major disruption
   After illness, travel, or any routine disruption, deliberately audit which habits are still active and reinstall those that lapsed.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
7. Treat a lapse as data, not failure
   Expect occasional slips and use them to refine the swap rather than to quit.
   Habit Substitution: Swap the Routine, Keep the Reward
8. Reevaluation at the Start of Each Session
   Begin every new EMDR session by checking whether last session’s gains held — and what emerged in between.
   EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
9. Recover promotion-focus motivation through approach-reminders after setbacks
   Setbacks deflate promotion motivation — the fastest recovery is reconnecting to the desired gain, not mitigating the loss.
   Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking
10. Debrief performances to recover from threat appraisals
    After a high-stakes event, restructure what happened to extract learning and reduce the residual threat signal.
    Challenge vs. Threat Appraisal, Made Practical

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