Coaching practices for Lapse Relapse Plan

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I miss one day and that’s the whole thing dead
• I slipped once and now this voice is going "well, you’ve already ruined it, might as well"
• I slipped after weeks of doing well and the shame hit so hard I just threw the whole thing out and went back to square one
• I can feel myself starting to slide
• My plans hold up fine until something throws them off

Practices that may help

1. Write a recovery if–then for when you slip
   "If I miss [behavior], then I will [specific recovery action] within [time window]."
   If–Then Planning, Made Practical
2. Treat a lapse as data, not failure
   Expect occasional slips and use them to refine the swap rather than to quit.
   Habit Substitution: Swap the Routine, Keep the Reward
3. Treat relapse as a predictable part of the process, not a failure
   Most people cycle through the stages several times before achieving lasting change — plan for it.
   The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical
4. Action plans for low mood: if-then plans for the early warning signs
   Build a specific "if mood dips to X, I will do Y" plan before mood declines so it is ready when needed.
   Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), Made Practical
5. Plan for obstacles with coping plans
   Anticipate the specific obstacles most likely to block your plan and pre-decide your response to each.
   Action Planning
6. Review and update action plans at a fixed weekly cadence
   An action plan that is not reviewed weekly becomes stale — regular review keeps the plan matched to current reality.
   Action Planning
7. Self-compassion when the wave wins
   When you act on the urge before the wave passes, treat the lapse with compassion — not as evidence of permanent failure.
   Ride the Wave (Urge Management), Made Practical
8. Pre-plan for high-risk moments
   Identify the situations most likely to trigger relapse and script your response in advance.
   Habit Substitution: Swap the Routine, Keep the Reward
9. Design decisions so they work even if some things go wrong
   Ask: does this plan require everything to go right? If so, redesign it.
   Margin of Safety
10. Pair the rule with self-compassion, not self-criticism
    Respond to a miss with kindness and a plan, which rebounds faster than harsh self-talk.
    The Two-Day Rule: Never Skip Twice

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