Coaching practices for Put Feelings Into Words

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Something is really getting to me right now and it’s running the show, but if you asked me what the feeling actually is I couldn’t tell you
• There’s this big formless dread sitting on me and I can’t even say what it is
• When something’s wrong all I can manage is a vague "I feel off" or "I feel bad," and that fog just sits on me and grows
• I can feel this murky thing inside me clearly enough, but every word I reach for to describe it feels like a guess from my head that doesn’t quite land
• When a feeling grabs me I’m so deep inside it that I become it

Practices that may help

1. Name the emotion in plain words
   Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
2. Name it to tame it (affect labeling)
   Put the emotion into words — "I’m feeling anxious" — to take some heat out of it.
   The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical
3. Label what you sense (affect labeling)
   Put precise words to internal sensations and feelings to take the heat out of them.
   Interoception, Explained
4. Find a handle word or image
   Let a word, phrase, or image arise from the felt sense — not the other way around.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
5. Add distance with your own name
   Label from a step back: "Sam is feeling overwhelmed" instead of "I am overwhelmed."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
6. Expressive writing about emotional experiences
   Write unfiltered about your feelings and thoughts around a difficult event — for processing, not performance.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
7. Expand your feelings vocabulary
   Deliberately learn and use a wider range of emotion words than "good" and "bad".
   Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
8. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
   Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
9. Help the child label the emotion with words
   Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
10. Label the emotion
    Name the feeling you’re sensing — "It sounds like this feels unfair" — to take its heat down.
    Tactical Empathy

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