Coaching practices for Reclaiming Agency
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Reclaiming Agency, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I go through my days on autopilot, doing what I’m told and what’s expected, never quite feeling like I’m the one steering my own actions
- The person did the work to make it right, but everyone’s still keeping them at arm’s length
- I can see paths forward but I just don’t believe my effort will actually go anywhere anymore
- I’ve managed to stop trying to control them, but now I just feel powerless and stuck
- They keep treating what they did as a rule they broke, an abstraction — and they have no real idea what it actually did to me day to day.
Practices that may help
- Practicing deliberate choice in movement
Make explicit micro-decisions during movement to rebuild the felt experience of agency.
Trauma-Informed Yoga: Movement as a Path to Safety - Aim for reintegration, not permanent labeling
Accountability is not a permanent identity; the goal is for the responsible party to re-enter the community as a full member.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Attention Reclaiming: Digital Minimalism in Practice
Attention reclaiming means auditing which digital tools genuinely serve your values, eliminating or constraining the rest, and rebuilding the capacity for sustained focus through deliberate practice. Cal Newport’s digital minimalism framework provides the structure; the harder part is building the tolerance for silence and boredom that smartphones have eroded. - Build agency thinking through small wins
Agency — the belief you can move toward the goal — is rebuilt by doing, not by deciding.
Hope Theory: Agency, Pathways, and Getting Unstuck - Let me (reclaim your own response)
After releasing what you can’t control, deliberately choose what you will do with what you can.
The Let Them Theory, Made Practical - Make the harm visible through an impact statement
The person who caused harm must hear — in detail — what the harm actually did to the person harmed.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Build a concrete accountability agreement
Accountability is a plan, not just a feeling — write down what will be done, by whom, and by when.
Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr) - Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context. - Therapeutic Letters
A therapist’s written letter to a client between sessions — documenting alternative-story gains before they fade.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
Related concerns
- Impact Statement Restorative Justice
Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
Involve the affected community, not just the two parties
- Restorative Justice Community
Harm rarely affects only two people — include those affected by the ripple.
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr After A Loss
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr After A Setback
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr At Work
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
- Restorative Justice Howard Zehr During A Big Change
Restorative justice is an approach to harm that focuses on repairing relationships and meeting the needs of those harmed, rather than on punishment. Developed by Howard Zehr and others, it asks three questions: Who was harmed? What do they need? Who is responsible for meeting those needs? Research on restorative programs shows higher victim satisfaction and, in many contexts, lower reoffending compared to conventional punitive approaches — though results vary by context.
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