Coaching practices for Recurring One on Ones
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- Whenever my week gets crazy the first thing I axe is my one-on-ones, and I keep telling myself we’ll catch up later
- Every single one-on-one we only ever talk about this week’s deliverables, and we never once zoom out to where they’re headed
- One-on-one keeps falling apart the second the other person gets busy
- We keep meaning to have one big sit-down to sort everything out, so it never happens
- Feedback in my one-on-ones only ever flows one way
Practices that may help
- Make it recurring and genuinely protected
A standing slot you almost never cancel beats a longer meeting held only when there’s a "reason."
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
An effective one-on-one is a recurring, protected meeting that belongs to your report: they own the agenda, and your job is to listen, unblock, and support their growth — not to run a status update. The relational mechanisms (regular contact, voice, support) are well grounded; the specific cadence and format are practitioner craft built on top of them. - Spend real time on growth, not just tasks
Regularly leave the weeds and talk about career, skills, and where they’re headed.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Join a small accountability group
Report to a small group rather than one person to add redundancy and social proof.
Accountability Partners - Keep check-ins short — consistency beats comprehensiveness
A 20-minute check-in every week beats a 3-hour one every quarter.
The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Make one-on-ones genuinely theirs, not yours
One-on-ones that serve the manager’s agenda demonstrate the opposite of caring personally.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Use brief, frequent touch-points rather than long, rare meetings
Frequent short feedback loops beat rare long reviews because the gap between behavior and feedback is what determines whether feedback changes anything.
The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work - Let the report own the agenda
It’s their meeting — they bring what matters to them, and you adapt to it.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Review across a week to detect patterns, not just daily incidents
Once a week, read your nightly reviews together and name the pattern you see.
The Pythagorean Evening Review
Related concerns
- How Often One On Ones
An effective one-on-one is a recurring, protected meeting that belongs to your report: they own the agenda, and your job is to listen, unblock, and support their growth — not to run a status update. The relational mechanisms (regular contact, voice, support) are well grounded; the specific cadence and format are practitioner craft built on top of them.
- Effective One On One Meetings
An effective one-on-one is a recurring, protected meeting that belongs to your report: they own the agenda, and your job is to listen, unblock, and support their growth — not to run a status update. The relational mechanisms (regular contact, voice, support) are well grounded; the specific cadence and format are practitioner craft built on top of them.
- Effective One On Ones At Work
An effective one-on-one is a recurring, protected meeting that belongs to your report: they own the agenda, and your job is to listen, unblock, and support their growth — not to run a status update. The relational mechanisms (regular contact, voice, support) are well grounded; the specific cadence and format are practitioner craft built on top of them.
- Effective One On Ones When Burned Out
An effective one-on-one is a recurring, protected meeting that belongs to your report: they own the agenda, and your job is to listen, unblock, and support their growth — not to run a status update. The relational mechanisms (regular contact, voice, support) are well grounded; the specific cadence and format are practitioner craft built on top of them.
- Employee Centered One On One
An effective one-on-one is a recurring, protected meeting that belongs to your report: they own the agenda, and your job is to listen, unblock, and support their growth — not to run a status update. The relational mechanisms (regular contact, voice, support) are well grounded; the specific cadence and format are practitioner craft built on top of them.
- When Radical Candor Care Make One On Ones Theirs
One-on-ones that serve the manager’s agenda demonstrate the opposite of caring personally.
Make one-on-ones genuinely theirs, not yours
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