Spend real time on growth, not just tasks
Regularly leave the weeds and talk about career, skills, and where they’re headed.
Why it works
Day-to-day execution crowds out development, so growth conversations only happen if you deliberately protect room for them. Tying daily work to a longer-term direction satisfies the need for meaning and competence, which sustains motivation and signals that you’re invested in them as a person, not just their output.
How to do it
- Periodically dedicate a one-on-one mostly to development and career direction.
- Connect current projects to the skills and goals they care about.
- Ask where they want to grow, and help them find work that moves them there.
Evidence
Perceived growth opportunity and meaningful work are consistently linked to engagement and retention; competence and relatedness support drive intrinsic motivation in self-determination research. (observational)
Associational; growth talk rings hollow if no actual opportunities or support follow it.
Sources
- Deci & Ryan, self-determination theory (competence, relatedness); engagement/retention research on growth opportunity
Common mistake
Only ever discussing this week’s deliverables, so the report concludes you see them as a task-executor and quietly starts looking elsewhere.
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More practices for Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
- Make it recurring and genuinely protected
A standing slot you almost never cancel beats a longer meeting held only when there’s a "reason."
- Let the report own the agenda
It’s their meeting — they bring what matters to them, and you adapt to it.
- Listen far more than you talk
Aim to talk a fraction of the time; your silence is what makes space for the real issues.
- Use the time to remove blockers
Ask what’s in their way and then actually clear it — this is your highest-leverage move.
- Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.