Coaching practices for Relationship Satisfaction Audit

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When I ask myself if I’m happy in this relationship, all I can summon are the irritations and the fights
• There’s a low hum of dissatisfaction in my life I can’t pin down
• We’re comfortable and we don’t fight much, but I can’t tell if I’m actually becoming more of who I want to be inside this relationship or just settling
• My partner and I both have some quiet inner read on how close we actually feel lately, but neither of us ever says the number out loud
• I tell myself we’re basically fine, but I have a nagging sense I’m overestimating what I bring and underestimating the friction

Practices that may help

1. Satisfaction audit: tracking what is actually good
   Regularly inventory what genuinely works in the relationship — not as gratitude practice, but as an honest baseline.
   The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
2. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
3. Tracking movement toward ideal self
   Measure your progress toward your ideal self over time — not just relationship satisfaction.
   The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other
4. Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
   Relationship maintenance behaviors are the everyday actions partners use to sustain relationship satisfaction, commitment, and closeness over time. Laura Stafford’s research identified five evidence-linked categories — positivity, openness, assurances, social networks, and sharing tasks — with positivity and assurances showing the strongest and most consistent links to satisfaction.
5. Ask "How are we doing?" as a genuine question
   Invite both partners to rate and describe the overall relationship state this week.
   The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
6. Audit your actual ratio periodically
   Estimate your recent positive-to-negative ratio to get an honest read on where you actually are.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
7. Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it
   Divide practical responsibilities in a way both partners experience as fair.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
8. The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
   A relationship check-in is a structured, scheduled conversation — usually weekly — where partners deliberately assess how they are doing as a couple: what’s working, what’s building up, and what each person needs. The practice is widely used in couples therapy and coaching, with a strong mechanistic rationale; direct RCT evidence for the structured check-in format specifically is limited.
9. Build rituals of connection and shared meaning
   Create repeatable rituals that signal the relationship is a priority.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
10. Apply the matrix at the role level, not just the task level
    Audit which of your entire roles or commitments are Q1, Q2, Q3, or Q4 — not just individual tasks.
    The Eisenhower Life Audit

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