Coaching practices for Revealed Preference Goals

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep saying certain things matter to me, but when I look at what I actually pick up and what just sits there year after year, the gap is uncomfortable
• Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
• I’ve got this whole list of goals and I honestly can’t tell anymore which ones are mine versus which I took on to look right or quiet the guilt
• I start browsing before I’ve worked out what I actually want, and the flashy features of whatever I see first quietly rewrite what I think I’m looking for
• I sit down to choose and realize I never decided what I actually want first, so whatever options get put in front of me end up defining "good" for me

Practices that may help

1. Use the someday list as a values barometer
   What you keep adding to the someday list — and what you keep not doing — reveals what you actually value versus what you think you value.
   The Someday List
2. Excavate core values before writing goals
   Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
   The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
3. Audit why you are pursuing each goal
   Check whether each goal is driven by interest and values or by guilt and external pressure.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
4. Elicit your real standards before you look
   Write down what a good outcome actually requires before options are visible.
   Choice Overload, Made Practical
5. Evaluate each option against your criteria before comparing options to each other
   Score options independently first — so the comparison set can’t retroactively redefine what good looks like.
   The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice
6. Check whether a third option is changing your view of the original two
   If a new option makes you change your preference between existing options, ask whether the new option should have that power.
   The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice
7. Frame advancement-oriented goals as gains to approach
   Promotion-focused goals are best framed as opportunities to gain rather than obligations to fulfil.
   Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking
8. For many decisions, going with your gut outperforms lengthy analysis
   Over-explaining reasons for a preference can actually detgrade the quality of affective predictions.
   Affect Forecasting: Why You Mispredicted How You’d Feel
9. Internalize goals you did not choose
   Move externally set goals along the spectrum from "have to" toward "value".
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
10. Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
    Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
    Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical

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