Coaching practices for Right Speech Buddhism
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Right Speech Buddhism, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There’s something charged sitting on the tip of my tongue and I keep blurting things in the heat of the moment that I regret
- The same dissatisfaction keeps gnawing at me, and I’m starting to suspect I’m not seeing the situation as it actually is
- I don’t want to just believe a teaching on faith and call it done
- I’m about to walk into a hard conversation and I can feel I’m fired up
- I’m kind and openhearted with the people I already love and quietly closed off to the ones who get under my skin, and I’m realizing that warmth that only flows toward easy people isn’t really the practice
Practices that may help
- Right speech — four practical tests for what to say
Before speaking in a difficult situation, run the statement through: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it the right time?
The Noble Eightfold Path as a Practical Life Framework - Right view — seeing clearly rather than through distortion
Examine a current problem or belief and ask whether you are seeing it as it actually is or through a lens of craving, aversion, or misperception.
The Noble Eightfold Path as a Practical Life Framework - Fourth noble truth — committing to the path as a practice, not a belief
The fourth noble truth is the prescription: engage the Eightfold Path as an active investigation, not as a doctrine to subscribe to.
The Four Noble Truths as a Practical Framework - Right intention — clarifying motivation before action
Before a significant action or conversation, briefly ask: "Am I moving from renunciation, goodwill, or non-harming — or from craving, aversion, or delusion?"
The Noble Eightfold Path as a Practical Life Framework - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - The speech audit: THINK before you speak
Before speaking in a charged moment, check whether the words are True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, Kind.
Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice - Koan practice and daily ethical conduct (sila)
Ground koan inquiry in the ethical precepts — insight without conduct is unstable.
Zen Koans: Inquiry Beyond Reason - First noble truth — recognising dukkha honestly
Acknowledge suffering as it actually is — without dramatising it or spiritual-bypassing it.
The Four Noble Truths as a Practical Framework - Train with the two truths throughout all activities
Hold both relative reality (things matter) and ultimate reality (things are empty of fixed essence) simultaneously.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Don’t make gods into demons
Don’t let spiritual practice become a source of pride, judgment, or superiority over others.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
Related concerns
- Right Livelihood Buddhism
Ask whether your livelihood causes harm to yourself or others — and where friction between your values and your work lives.
Right livelihood — ethical audit of how you earn and spend your time
- Noble Eightfold Path
The Noble Eightfold Path is the Buddha's practical framework for ending suffering: right view, right intention, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, and right concentration. "Right" means aligned with clear seeing, not moral perfection. The path is integrated and mutually supporting, not a sequential checklist. Evidence is largely clinical and mechanistic; several limbs have direct empirical parallels.
- Right Effort Buddhism
Calibrate effort in meditation and in life to the lute string: neither too tight (strain) nor too loose (laxity).
Right effort — the middle way between straining and slack
- Right View Buddhism
Examine a current problem or belief and ask whether you are seeing it as it actually is or through a lens of craving, aversion, or misperception.
Right view — seeing clearly rather than through distortion
- Tibetan Buddhist Slogans
Lojong is a Tibetan Buddhist mind-training system, codified by Atisha and later Chekawa, built around 59 slogans that train the mind to transform adversity into awakening and to cultivate compassion for all beings including oneself. Evidence is primarily contemplative-clinical; some practices (loving-kindness, tonglen-adjacent exercises) have been studied, but the full system is practitioner tradition rather than a clinical protocol.
- Two Truths Buddhism
Hold both relative reality (things matter) and ultimate reality (things are empty of fixed essence) simultaneously.
Train with the two truths throughout all activities
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