Coaching practices for Se Self Practice
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- When the scared or self-loathing part of me shows up, my reflex is to shove it away or pile more judgment on it, which only makes it worse
- Sitting alone with my own mind tends to dredge up self-criticism and uncomfortable stuff, and I come out of meditation feeling more turned-against-myself and isolated than when I started
- When I practice I’m just kind of doing it again and hoping it’s better, because I don’t actually have a clear picture in my head of what great is supposed to look like
- When I practice the same thing at the same level it gets boring, and the boredom is exactly when my mind wanders off and starts criticizing
- My default setting is to evaluate myself constantly
Practices that may help
- Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance. - Cultivate Self through directed inner compassion
Practice sending compassion inward — toward the parts that are suffering — to build the Self-energy those parts need.
IFS Self Energy, Made Practical - Metta at the close — sharing merit and goodwill
End each sitting by radiating goodwill outward, softening any self-critical edge the practice surfaces.
Vipassana Meditation, Made Practical - Build sharper mental representations
Develop a detailed internal model of what excellent performance looks like.
Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice - Find the challenge that produces full engagement
Match the difficulty of what you are practicing to what fully engages your attention without overwhelming it.
The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1 - Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
Svadhyaya is one of the five niyamas in Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras — a sustained practice of turning attention inward to observe your own patterns, motives, and conditioning. It pairs honest self-examination with the study of wisdom texts, and centuries of contemplative tradition treat the combination as the foundation of genuine self-knowledge. - Practice daily self-transcendence
Each day, do at least one thing whose value is entirely independent of how you felt, performed, or appeared while doing it.
Logotherapy: Dereflection - Self-Compassion, Made Practical
Kristin Neff defines self-compassion as treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a struggling friend, built from three parts: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Unlike self-esteem, it does not depend on success or comparison — and it has a genuinely strong research base, with controlled trials linking it to lower anxiety, depression, and self-criticism. - Don’t make gods into demons
Don’t let spiritual practice become a source of pride, judgment, or superiority over others.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Always abide by the three principles
Maintain your vow, don’t show off, and practise impartially with everyone — not just the people you like.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
Related concerns
- Inner Compassion Practice
Practice sending compassion inward — toward the parts that are suffering — to build the Self-energy those parts need.
Cultivate Self through directed inner compassion
- Observer Self Practice
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Observing Self Practice
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Distanced Self Compassion Practice
Combine third-person perspective with self-compassionate framing to avoid both self-attack and self-indulgence.
Self-compassion through the distancing lens
- How Do You Practice Self Acceptance And Self Compassion In Your Daily Life
Kristin Neff defines self-compassion as treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a struggling friend, built from three parts: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Unlike self-esteem, it does not depend on success or comparison — and it has a genuinely strong research base, with controlled trials linking it to lower anxiety, depression, and self-criticism.
- How To Practice Self Compassion
Kristin Neff defines self-compassion as treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a struggling friend, built from three parts: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Unlike self-esteem, it does not depend on success or comparison — and it has a genuinely strong research base, with controlled trials linking it to lower anxiety, depression, and self-criticism.
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