Coaching practices for Self Affirmation Threat

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  • Before any big evaluation my whole sense of worth narrows down to how I’ll perform in that one room, and if I bomb it I feel like I’m worthless as a person
  • I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
  • Walking into this test I can feel the weight of proving that people like me can do it, and that pressure eats up so much of my head that I choke on the very thing I’m most afraid of confirming about my group.
  • I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
  • Someone says something kind about me and I’ve already swatted it away before I even think

Practices that may help

  1. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
    Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
    Power Posing Revisited
  2. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
    Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  3. Use values affirmation to counter stereotype threat
    When your social identity is under threat, a brief values reflection can protect performance.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  4. Write about a value that matters to you
    Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  5. Surface the verification motive
    Name the moments you discount positive feedback, then ask what self-view you are protecting.
    Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
  6. Broaden your self-concept beyond one domain
    Actively maintain a multi-domain identity so no single failure can threaten your whole self-worth.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  7. Shame-attacking exercises
    Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
    Unconditional Self-Acceptance
  8. The practice of self-assertiveness
    Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  9. Affirmations
    Repeat chosen statements about who you are and what you’re committed to.
    The Miracle Morning, Made Practical
  10. Affirm a different value after a failure
    When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical

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