Coaching practices for Self as Context Observing Self as a Caregiver
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- I narrate everything as "I AM stressed, I AM anxious," like it’s the whole truth of me, and I want to learn to say it more like "there’s tightness in my chest, I notice fear"
- My thoughts feel like they ARE me
- When a wave of fear or anger hits, it swallows me whole and I react before I even know I’ve reacted
- This low mood feels like it’s just who I am now and always will be, and I’ve lost touch with the fact that I’ve been through completely different chapters of my life and somehow there was always a "me" underneath, steady through all of it.
- I’ve decided I just am this
Practices that may help
- Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance. - Notice and name experience from observer position
Describe what is happening inside in the third person of the observer, not the first person of the content.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Notice the noticer
Find the part of you that is observing the thought — and recognize it is not the thought.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Return to the observer during difficult emotional moments
When flooded by emotion, briefly step to the observing perspective before responding.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Find the continuous self beneath changing contents
Recognize the perspective that has been present across every chapter of your life.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Self-as-context (the observing self)
Notice the steady "you" that observes thoughts and feelings without being defined by them.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical - Write from the voice of an unconditionally kind friend
Adopt the perspective of someone who loves you completely and sees your situation clearly.
The Self-Compassion Letter, Made Practical - Self-compassion through the distancing lens
Combine third-person perspective with self-compassionate framing to avoid both self-attack and self-indulgence.
Self-Distancing Journaling - Shift identity from self-concept to awareness itself
Experiment with "I am the aware space" rather than "I am my thoughts and feelings."
Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical - Separate the self from the self-story
Hold a self-label ("I’m an anxious person") as content your observer can watch, not as identity.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical
Related concerns
- Self As Context Observing Self At Work
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self When Starting Out
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- What Is Self As Context In Act
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self During A Big Change
Notice when your sense of who you are shifts dramatically with context, mood, or others’ opinions — this instability is itself informative.
Track self-stability over time
- Self As Context Observing Self For My Teenager
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
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