Coaching practices for Self as Context Observing Self in a New Job
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My thoughts feel like they ARE me
- I become a noticeably different person depending on who I’m around
- The role that told me who I was just ended
- I narrate everything as "I AM stressed, I AM anxious," like it’s the whole truth of me, and I want to learn to say it more like "there’s tightness in my chest, I notice fear"
- I’m about to join a whole new group of people who have no idea who I’ve been
Practices that may help
- Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance. - Notice the noticer
Find the part of you that is observing the thought — and recognize it is not the thought.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Track self-stability over time
Notice when your sense of who you are shifts dramatically with context, mood, or others’ opinions — this instability is itself informative.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Anchor self-definition in values, not roles
Define yourself by what you stand for rather than by the roles you play — roles change; values endure.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Notice and name experience from observer position
Describe what is happening inside in the third person of the observer, not the first person of the content.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect - Self-as-context (the observing self)
Notice the steady "you" that observes thoughts and feelings without being defined by them.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical - Return to the observer during difficult emotional moments
When flooded by emotion, briefly step to the observing perspective before responding.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Find the continuous self beneath changing contents
Recognize the perspective that has been present across every chapter of your life.
Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical - Borrow an identity temporarily by asking "what would [person] do?"
Temporarily adopting a role model’s identity in a specific context lowers the friction of acting as they would.
Identity Priming, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Self As Context Observing Self At Work
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self During A Big Change
Notice when your sense of who you are shifts dramatically with context, mood, or others’ opinions — this instability is itself informative.
Track self-stability over time
- Self As Context
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self For My Teenager
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- Self As Context Observing Self When Starting Out
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
- What Is Self As Context In Act
Self-as-context is an ACT concept, developed by Steven Hayes, that distinguishes the stable "you that notices" from the thoughts, feelings, and stories that pass through your mind. Practicing it reduces the threat of painful self-stories by shifting identity from what you think and feel to the perspective that observes them. Support is theoretically strong within ACT; direct experimental isolation of this process is more limited than for defusion or acceptance.
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