Coaching practices for Self Authorship Moving From the Socialized to the Self Authored Mind with My Team
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- I’m torn over a decision and I genuinely can’t tell if I want this or if I just want them to approve
- When two people I respect disagree, I flip to whoever I spoke to last and lose my own footing
- When a feeling grabs me I become it
- When demands pull me in different directions I just bend toward whichever voice is loudest, because I’ve never actually pinned down my own criteria
- I keep deferring to what other people think is right and then feel hollow about decisions that were never really mine
Practices that may help
- Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
Self-authorship, from Robert Kegan’s adult-development theory, is the capacity to generate your own internal standard for decisions rather than being defined by others’ expectations. It marks the shift from the "socialized mind" (made up by your environment) to the "self-authored mind" (author of your own values). It is a developmental theory describing how grown adults keep growing, not a quick technique. - Locate where you’re authored from
Notice whether your current decision is driven by others’ expectations or by your own internal standard.
Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind - Hold conflicting perspectives without collapsing
When two people you respect disagree, hold both views as data instead of needing one to be simply right.
Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind - Make the subject-object move
Turn something that has you ("I am anxious") into something you have and can examine ("I notice anxiety in me").
Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind - Write your own internal standard
Articulate the values and criteria you’ll use to judge your own choices, independent of approval.
Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind - Develop your own compass for decisions
Build a personal value system that guides decisions independently of social approval.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Map your immunity to change
Surface the hidden competing commitment that keeps sabotaging a change you genuinely want.
Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind - Shift identity from self-concept to awareness itself
Experiment with "I am the aware space" rather than "I am my thoughts and feelings."
Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical - Ask what a specific other person would do
Step into a named other’s perspective to access approaches you would not generate as yourself.
Oblique Strategies, Made Practical - Definitional Ceremonies and Outsider Witnesses
Invite meaningful others to witness and retell the new story — being known differently by others consolidates the new identity.
Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Stories That Define You
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