Coaching practices for Self Awareness Decision Making

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
• Right before a tempting choice my head gets loud and defensive and I can’t even see my own real preferences clearly
• Under all this pressure to please people and react, I’m about to make a call that I already sense doesn’t square with who I actually want to be
• I feel completely sure about this decision, which is honestly starting to make me nervous
• I’m torn over a decision and I genuinely can’t tell if I want this or if I just want them to approve

Practices that may help

1. Self-awareness
   Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
   Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
2. Affirm a core value before a high-stakes decision
   Briefly reflecting on what matters most to you before a decision increases the chance you act consistently with it.
   Identity Priming, Made Practical
3. Use the 10-year view to check values alignment
   Ask: is the 10-year version of this choice consistent with what I actually care about?
   The 10-10-10 Rule
4. Ask 'What am I missing?' before major decisions
   Treat a confident feeling before a high-stakes decision as a cue to check what your competence map is omitting.
   Circle of Competence
5. Locate where you’re authored from
   Notice whether your current decision is driven by others’ expectations or by your own internal standard.
   Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
6. The practice of living consciously
   Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
7. Develop your own compass for decisions
   Build a personal value system that guides decisions independently of social approval.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
8. Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
   Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
   Existentialism and Radical Choice
9. Advise yourself as you would a friend
   Ask what you would tell a friend in exactly your situation — then take your own advice.
   Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems
10. Stay inside for high-stakes, irreversible decisions
    Reserve your autonomous judgment for decisions within your circle; get help for the rest.
    Circle of Competence

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