Coaching practices for Self Compassion at Work
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Self Compassion at Work, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When the scared or self-loathing part of me shows up, my reflex is to shove it away or pile more judgment on it, which only makes it worse
- After I mess up I’m stuck choosing between tearing into myself or letting myself off the hook entirely
- When I mess up, the voice inside goes straight to “you’re worthless”
- I’ll bend over backwards for everyone else, but the idea of being that gentle with myself feels selfish
- The strangest thing happens when I finally try being gentle with myself
Practices that may help
- Cultivate Self through directed inner compassion
Practice sending compassion inward — toward the parts that are suffering — to build the Self-energy those parts need.
IFS Self Energy, Made Practical - Self-compassion through the distancing lens
Combine third-person perspective with self-compassionate framing to avoid both self-attack and self-indulgence.
Self-Distancing Journaling - Self-Compassion, Made Practical
Kristin Neff defines self-compassion as treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a struggling friend, built from three parts: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Unlike self-esteem, it does not depend on success or comparison — and it has a genuinely strong research base, with controlled trials linking it to lower anxiety, depression, and self-criticism. - Apply self-compassion directly to shame
Shame says "I am bad"; self-compassion says "I am human, and this is hard" — these are not the same claim, and one of them is accurate.
Shame Resilience, Made Practical - Include acts of kindness toward yourself
The kindness architecture that builds well-being includes self-directed kindness — not just other-directed.
Acts of Kindness, Made Practical - Recognize backdraft — the pain that arises when kindness first lands
When self-compassion initially hurts more, that is backdraft — a sign it is working, not failing.
The Self-Compassion Break - The self-compassion break
A three-step phrase you say in a hard moment: this is suffering, suffering is human, may I be kind to myself.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - N — Nurture with self-compassion
Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Compassionate Letter Writing
Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of a wise, compassionate friend — about something you’ve been judging yourself for.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
Related concerns
- Parts Work Self Compassion
Practice sending compassion inward — toward the parts that are suffering — to build the Self-energy those parts need.
Cultivate Self through directed inner compassion
- Self Compassion In A New Job
When self-compassion initially hurts more, that is backdraft — a sign it is working, not failing.
Recognize backdraft — the pain that arises when kindness first lands
- Self Compassion As A Caregiver
Practice sending compassion inward — toward the parts that are suffering — to build the Self-energy those parts need.
- Self Compassion Before Bed
Combine third-person perspective with self-compassionate framing to avoid both self-attack and self-indulgence.
Self-compassion through the distancing lens
- Self Compassion On A Budget
Combine third-person perspective with self-compassionate framing to avoid both self-attack and self-indulgence.
- Delivering Compassion To Yourself
Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
N — Nurture with self-compassion
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