Coaching practices for Self Determination Theory Management

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• The more I order myself around
• My people route every little decision up to me, even ones squarely in their own authority
• Everything on my plate is something I "have to" do for someone else, and approaching it that way I feel coerced and flat
• Every part of my day is dictated to me
• The work I actually choose for myself

Practices that may help

1. Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
   Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science.
2. Use autonomy-supportive self-talk
   Coach yourself with choice and rationale, not "shoulds" and self-pressure.
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
3. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
4. Locate the autonomous "why"
   Reframe a task until you are doing it from your own values, not external pressure.
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
5. Increase autonomy over task, time, technique, and team
   Reclaim control over how you do the work — Pink’s "four T’s".
   Drive: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose
6. Carve out self-directed time
   Reserve protected time to pursue work you choose, the way innovative teams do.
   Drive: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose
7. Meet the relatedness need
   Connect the work to people — support, shared purpose, or being seen.
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
8. Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
   Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
9. Internalize goals you did not choose
   Move externally set goals along the spectrum from "have to" toward "value".
   Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
10. Clarify what people can decide without asking
    Define the fence: what decisions can anyone on the team make without checking in?
    Delegation Levels, Made Practical

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