Coaching practices for Self Imposed Rules

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• When I slip past one of my strict rules around food I don’t just adjust
• I keep telling myself "it has to be this way" and "that’s just not an option," and I’ve never once stopped to write down those rules and ask whether the problem actually imposed them or whether I just assumed them.
• My goals are always vague things like "cut back" or "be better about it," and that fuzziness is exactly where I weasel out
• I keep reinventing the container
• My head is full of “I should be further along by now,” “I shouldn’t need rest,” “I have to have it together”

Practices that may help

1. Know when a bright line backfires
   Rigid all-or-nothing rules can fuel disordered patterns — use them with judgment.
   Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
2. Make your constraints explicit before solving
   Write out every assumption and rule you are treating as fixed — most problem-solvers carry invisible constraints they never surface.
   Constraint Relaxation: Escaping the Walls You Built Yourself
3. Draw one clear, binary line
   Replace "less" or "moderate" with a rule that is unambiguously on or off.
   Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
4. Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
   A bright-line rule is a clear, unambiguous limit with no judgment calls — "no alcohol on weekdays" rather than "drink less." They are easier to keep than willpower-by-degrees because they remove the in-the-moment negotiation where self-control breaks down. The idea draws on real research into decision fatigue, ego depletion debates, and the difficulty of moderation, though "bright-line rule" itself is a heuristic borrowed from law.
5. Adopt a self-imposed rule or form
   Commit to a fixed form (a format, a recurring rule) and let it shape the work over time.
   Why Constraints Boost Creativity
6. Should statements and moral perfectionism
   "I should be doing better by now" — the internal rule that makes every shortfall a moral failure.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
7. Identify the constraint you invented: ask "who said it had to be this way?"
   Name one element of your creative work you have never questioned and spend 20 minutes treating it as optional.
   The Beginner’s Mind in Creative Practice
8. Set default rules for willpower-intense situations
   A pre-decided rule requires no willpower at the decision point — the decision has already been made.
   Simple Heuristics: Gerd Gigerenzer’s Case for Fast and Frugal Thinking
9. Practice equity: bend general rules to particular cases
   Apply rules with awareness that no rule perfectly fits every situation; the wise person corrects for the fit.
   Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom
10. The one-in, one-out rule
    For a category of stuff, nothing new comes in unless something old goes out.
    Voluntary Simplicity, Made Practical

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