Coaching practices for I Either Have So Many Rules Nothing Can Possibly Fit or So Few That the Lazy Answer Just Walks Right in I Can't Find the in Between Where It's Tight Enough to Push Me but Loose Enough to Actually Move
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- I either have so many rules nothing can possibly fit, or so few that the lazy answer just walks right in
- The closet, the shelves, the drawers just keep filling no matter how often I tidy, and there’s no natural point where it stops
- My goals are always vague things like "cut back" or "be better about it," and that fuzziness is exactly where I weasel out
- I’m staring at a case where following the rule to the letter would clearly produce the wrong result
- I keep telling myself "it has to be this way" and "that’s just not an option," and I’ve never once stopped to write down those rules and ask whether the problem actually imposed them or whether I just assumed them.
Practices that may help
- Tune to the inverted-U sweet spot
Aim for moderate constraint — enough to force search, not so much that nothing is possible.
Why Constraints Boost Creativity - The one-in, one-out rule
For a category of stuff, nothing new comes in unless something old goes out.
Voluntary Simplicity, Made Practical - Draw one clear, binary line
Replace "less" or "moderate" with a rule that is unambiguously on or off.
Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some" - Practice equity: bend general rules to particular cases
Apply rules with awareness that no rule perfectly fits every situation; the wise person corrects for the fit.
Phronesis: Aristotle’s Practical Wisdom - Make your constraints explicit before solving
Write out every assumption and rule you are treating as fixed — most problem-solvers carry invisible constraints they never surface.
Constraint Relaxation: Escaping the Walls You Built Yourself - Audit which constraints are real and which are assumed
List every constraint you’re working under, then test each one for whether it is actually fixed.
Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First - Know when a bright line backfires
Rigid all-or-nothing rules can fuel disordered patterns — use them with judgment.
Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some" - Question what moves and operations are permitted
Challenge the implicit rules about which actions are allowed — often the "forbidden" move is the solution.
Constraint Relaxation: Escaping the Walls You Built Yourself - Impose a deliberate constraint
Add an artificial limit (a rule, a shape, a forbidden option) to block the obvious path.
Why Constraints Boost Creativity - Use "none" when "some" is harder
A clean zero is often easier to sustain than a tightly rationed "a little."
Bright-Line Rules: When "None" Beats "Some"
Related concerns
- Constraint Relaxation Escaping The Walls You Built Yourself When Starting Out
Constraint relaxation is the cognitive process of loosening the implicit rules and representations that frame a problem, allowing insight to occur. Research by Knoblich and colleagues shows that most "stuck" problem-solving involves over-constrained representations — not lack of intelligence — and that insight follows when a key constraint is identified and released.
- Constraint Violation
List every constraint you’re working under, then test each one for whether it is actually fixed.
Audit which constraints are real and which are assumed
- Flexible Vs Rigid Rules
Rigid all-or-nothing rules can fuel disordered patterns — use them with judgment.
Know when a bright line backfires
- Self Imposed Rules
Rigid all-or-nothing rules can fuel disordered patterns — use them with judgment.
- When Lateral Thinking Challenge Assumptions
Ask "Why must this be this way?" for each element of the problem — not to be contrarian, but to find which constraints are real.
Challenge: systematically question why things are done the way they are
- Add A Constraint
Add an artificial limit (a rule, a shape, a forbidden option) to block the obvious path.
Impose a deliberate constraint
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