Coaching practices for Self Reevaluation Ttm
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My motivation for this keeps fading because it’s all external
- I flub one thing — a bad meeting, a clumsy text — and within seconds I’ve gone from "that went badly" to "I’m a failure," like the single slip becomes a verdict on the entire person I am.
- My default setting is to evaluate myself constantly
- I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
- I only seem to know how I’m doing by measuring myself against other people
Practices that may help
- Practice self-reevaluation to build a new self-image
Imagine how you will think and feel about yourself once you have changed — and how you’ll feel if you don’t.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - Separate the act from the self
Rate your behaviors and outcomes — never your whole self — so one failure cannot indict your entire worth.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Practice daily self-transcendence
Each day, do at least one thing whose value is entirely independent of how you felt, performed, or appeared while doing it.
Logotherapy: Dereflection - Write about a value that matters to you
Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Reduce social comparison as a source of self-definition
Stop using other people’s qualities as the primary benchmark for your own — it imports their standards into your self-concept.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
Power Posing Revisited - Redirect comparison from others to your own past self
Deliberately compare today’s self to last year’s self — a comparison with a fixed and knowable baseline.
Social Comparison Online: What the Research Actually Shows - Look honestly at your responses
Face where you fell short and where you acted well, without spiraling into either.
The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day - Observe the self with mindful distance
Watch self-critical and self-inflating thoughts with curiosity rather than fusion — you are not what you think about yourself.
Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem - Ask for clarity and honest perception
Before reviewing, pause to ask for the capacity to see honestly rather than defensively.
The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review
Related concerns
- Act Self Assessment
Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
- When Self Affirmation Theory Values Affirmation Writing
Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
Write about a value that matters to you
- Crocker Self Esteem Contingencies
Map the specific conditions your self-worth currently depends on so you can see the fragility clearly.
Identify where your self-esteem is contingent
- Debiasing Self Assessment
The wheel’s value is proportional to the honesty of your ratings — aspirational scores produce a pleasant picture that changes nothing.
Rate each life domain with brutal honesty, not aspiration
- Debiasing Self Reflection
Before reviewing, pause to ask for the capacity to see honestly rather than defensively.
Ask for clarity and honest perception
- Questioning Self Evaluation Standards
Stop using other people’s qualities as the primary benchmark for your own — it imports their standards into your self-concept.
Reduce social comparison as a source of self-definition
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