Coaching practices for Act Self Assessment
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- When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
- I do these life check-ins alone in my head and then quietly let them slide, and I think if I actually said the low scores out loud to someone who’d remember, I couldn’t just keep ignoring them the way I always do.
- I only seem to know how I’m doing by measuring myself against other people
- I flub one thing — a bad meeting, a clumsy text — and within seconds I’ve gone from "that went badly" to "I’m a failure," like the single slip becomes a verdict on the entire person I am.
- I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
Practices that may help
- Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead - Use the wheel as a relationship check-in, not just a solo exercise
Sharing your wheel with a partner, coach, or trusted friend turns a self-assessment into a conversation and a commitment.
The Wheel of Life, Made Practical - Reduce social comparison as a source of self-definition
Stop using other people’s qualities as the primary benchmark for your own — it imports their standards into your self-concept.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Separate the act from the self
Rate your behaviors and outcomes — never your whole self — so one failure cannot indict your entire worth.
Unconditional Self-Acceptance - Write about a value that matters to you
Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical - Look honestly at your responses
Face where you fell short and where you acted well, without spiraling into either.
The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day - Reframe passive questions as active questions
Ask "did I do my best to...?" rather than "how was my...?" — the word "try" changes what the question measures.
The Morning Questions - Take the VIA survey and identify your signature strengths
Discover your top five to seven character strengths using the validated VIA survey.
VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical - Ask for clarity and honest perception
Before reviewing, pause to ask for the capacity to see honestly rather than defensively.
The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review - Rate your current position in each domain
Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
Values Bullseye, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Act Self Assessment Domains
Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
Rate your current position in each domain
- Debiasing Self Assessment
The wheel’s value is proportional to the honesty of your ratings — aspirational scores produce a pleasant picture that changes nothing.
Rate each life domain with brutal honesty, not aspiration
- Honest Self Assessment
Name where you fell short today without either minimizing it or spiraling into self-punishment.
Face shortfalls with honest sorrow, not shame
- Self Assessment Skills
Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
- Self Reevaluation Ttm
Imagine how you will think and feel about yourself once you have changed — and how you’ll feel if you don’t.
Practice self-reevaluation to build a new self-image
- Tki Self Assessment
The TKI identifies five conflict-handling modes — Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating — along two axes: how assertive you are in pursuing your own needs, and how cooperative you are in addressing others’. No mode is universally best; the skill is knowing which fits the situation and being able to shift deliberately rather than defaulting to one mode under pressure.
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