Coaching practices for Self Soothing Touch
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When I’m upset I instinctively want to hold my own face, the way someone would cup it if they were comforting me
- I’m too wound up to think my way calm
- I’m too flooded to think my way calmer
- The upset is sitting in my body, not my thoughts
- When I’m upset I have no idea how to actually comfort myself
Practices that may help
- Face havening
Gently stroke your cheekbones and forehead to activate the facial calm response.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
Self-havening uses slow, repetitive self-touch on the arms, face, and hands — combined with distraction or eye movements — to interrupt acute distress and lower arousal. The proposed mechanism (delta-wave induction via touch de-potentiating traumatic amygdala encodings) is plausible but not yet independently replicated at scale. As a brief self-soothing technique many people find it calming in the moment; it is not a proven clinical treatment and should not replace professional care for trauma or PTSD. - Five-senses self-soothe
Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Self-Soothing, Made Practical
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research. - Use soothing touch as a physiological anchor
Physical self-touch — hand on heart, cupped hands on face — signals safety to the body.
The Self-Compassion Break - Physical self-soothing
Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Supportive touch
Use a gentle physical gesture — a hand on the heart — to trigger the body’s soothing response.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Soothe through connection
Reach for a regulated person — a phone call, a physical presence — when you cannot self-regulate alone.
Self-Soothing, Made Practical - Self-soothe through the five senses
Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical - Arm havening stroke
Slowly stroke both forearms from shoulder to elbow while keeping attention off the distress.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
Related concerns
- Physical Self Soothing
Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
Physical self-soothing
- Self Soothing Touch Anxiety
Self-havening uses slow, repetitive self-touch on the arms, face, and hands — combined with distraction or eye movements — to interrupt acute distress and lower arousal. The proposed mechanism (delta-wave induction via touch de-potentiating traumatic amygdala encodings) is plausible but not yet independently replicated at scale. As a brief self-soothing technique many people find it calming in the moment; it is not a proven clinical treatment and should not replace professional care for trauma or PTSD.
- Personalized Self Soothing
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
- Self Soothe Five Senses
Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
Five-senses self-soothe
- Self Soothing Exercise
Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
- Self Touch Calming
Gently stroke your cheekbones and forehead to activate the facial calm response.
Face havening
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