Coaching practices for Self Soothing Touch Anxiety

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m flooded and my thoughts are useless right now
• When I’m upset I instinctively want to hold my own face, the way someone would cup it if they were comforting me
• I’m too flooded to think my way calmer
• I’m too wound up to think my way calm
• When I’m upset I have no idea how to actually comfort myself

Practices that may help

1. Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
   Self-havening uses slow, repetitive self-touch on the arms, face, and hands — combined with distraction or eye movements — to interrupt acute distress and lower arousal. The proposed mechanism (delta-wave induction via touch de-potentiating traumatic amygdala encodings) is plausible but not yet independently replicated at scale. As a brief self-soothing technique many people find it calming in the moment; it is not a proven clinical treatment and should not replace professional care for trauma or PTSD.
2. Arm havening stroke
   Slowly stroke both forearms from shoulder to elbow while keeping attention off the distress.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
3. Face havening
   Gently stroke your cheekbones and forehead to activate the facial calm response.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
4. Use soothing touch as a physiological anchor
   Physical self-touch — hand on heart, cupped hands on face — signals safety to the body.
   The Self-Compassion Break
5. Five-senses self-soothe
   Deliberately engage each sense with something genuinely comforting to redirect attention and activate the soothing system.
   Self-Soothing, Made Practical
6. Self-Soothing, Made Practical
   Self-soothing is the skill of comforting and calming yourself during distress — through sensory input, self-compassionate internal dialogue, physical regulation, and deliberate attention management. It draws on well-established mechanisms: bottom-up sensory regulation, vagal activation, and self-compassion. Individual soothing techniques vary in evidence; the general category of self-regulation through internal resources is well grounded in both DBT and attachment research.
7. Supportive touch
   Use a gentle physical gesture — a hand on the heart — to trigger the body’s soothing response.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
8. Physical self-soothing
   Use touch, warmth, rocking, or breath to directly calm the nervous system.
   Self-Soothing, Made Practical
9. Self-soothe through the five senses
   Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch while the crisis peaks.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
10. Self-soothe with the five senses
    Deliberately comfort yourself through sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch to ride out distress.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical

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