Coaching practices for Self Talk Strategies at Work

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I already know the exact situations that throw me
• I want to fix what I say to myself when I compete, but if I’m honest I can’t even reliably remember what that was
• When a problem gets hard my mind just goes quiet and blank and I sort of stall out staring at it
• In the moment my mind goes blank and the only voice in my head is “you can’t handle this”
• There’s a point in the grind where my body is screaming to quit and my head agrees, and that’s exactly where I cave

Practices that may help

1. Prepare "if-then" self-talk scripts for predictable pressure moments
   Pre-script your self-talk response to the specific situations most likely to derail you.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
2. Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
   Self-talk — the internal or external commentary we generate before and during performance — reliably affects performance outcomes, according to meta-analyses by Hatzigeorgiadis and colleagues. Instructional self-talk improves fine motor skill; motivational self-talk improves power and endurance tasks. The specific content and function of the self-talk matter more than whether it is positive or negative.
3. Monitor your self-talk patterns to identify what to change
   Track what you actually say to yourself during and after performance before trying to change it.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
4. Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
   Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
   Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge
5. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
   Script what you will say to yourself at the trigger, during the peak, and afterward — before you need it.
   Stress Inoculation Training
6. Use motivational self-talk for endurance and power tasks
   Pump yourself up verbally for tasks requiring effort, strength, or push through discomfort.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
7. Use verbal self-instruction to initiate
   Say out loud — or in writing — the exact action you are about to do before you do it.
   Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem
8. Use I-statements in real time, not just when prepared
   The skill only works if you can access it when you’re activated.
   I-Statements: How to Express Yourself Without Triggering Defensiveness
9. Mirror the last few words of what someone just said
   Repeat the final one to three words as a question — then stay silent.
   Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
10. Warm self-talk
    Speak to yourself in distress the way you would speak to a struggling friend — warmly, honestly, and without blame.
    Self-Soothing, Made Practical

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