Coaching practices for Servant Leadership After a Loss

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• Someone on my team is underperforming and I keep collapsing the two things together
• Everything still routes through me
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
• I keep making the call that looks good this quarter and quietly costs the team a year out, and I want to start deciding like someone holding all this in trust for the long run rather than spending it to hit the number in front of me.
• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances

Practices that may help

1. Lead with empathy and acceptance
   Accept the person fully even while refusing to accept poor performance.
   Servant Leadership, Made Practical
2. Build people’s autonomy and capability
   The aim is people who need you less over time, not more.
   Servant Leadership, Made Practical
3. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
4. Practice foresight and stewardship
   Hold the team’s resources and future in trust — decide for the long game, not just this quarter.
   Servant Leadership, Made Practical
5. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
6. Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
   As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
   The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
7. Servant Leadership, Made Practical
   Servant leadership, a philosophy coined by Robert Greenleaf, inverts the usual order: the leader exists to serve the growth and well-being of their people first, and authority follows from that service rather than from position. It began as a practitioner philosophy; a body of mostly observational research now links it to engagement and performance, though causal evidence remains limited.
8. Coaching — high direction and high support for the disillusioned learner
   When early enthusiasm dips but skill is still forming, combine clear guidance with active encouragement.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
9. Regulate the level of distress in the system
   Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
10. Listen deeply before responding
    Greenleaf’s servant-leader is "a listener first" — understanding precedes directing.
    Servant Leadership, Made Practical

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