Coaching practices for Situational Leadership After a Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My team is looking to me to read how bad things really are, and I’m stuck
• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances
• Every time something goes sideways we replay it looking for who dropped the ball, and the wins we never examine at all
• When I push my team on the hard stuff they either shut down and start blaming each other or just nod and carry on as before
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me

Practices that may help

1. Coaching — high direction and high support for the disillusioned learner
   When early enthusiasm dips but skill is still forming, combine clear guidance with active encouragement.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
2. Situational Leadership, Made Practical
   Situational Leadership, developed by Paul Hersey and Ken Blanchard, says the right leadership style depends on the follower’s readiness for a given task: match how much you direct versus support to where the person actually is. It is enormously popular in corporate training, but its empirical support is genuinely weak — treat it as a useful thinking tool, not a validated law.
3. Supporting — step back on direction, stay high on support
   For the capable-but-cautious performer, lighten the instructions and bolster their confidence.
   Situational Leadership, Made Practical
4. Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
   As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
   The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
5. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
6. Run brief after-action reviews without blame
   After any significant outcome — success or failure — ask four questions together as a team.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
7. Regulate the level of distress in the system
   Keep productive pressure high enough to motivate change but low enough to prevent shutdown.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
8. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
9. Lead with empathy and acceptance
   Accept the person fully even while refusing to accept poor performance.
   Servant Leadership, Made Practical
10. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
    Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical

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