Coaching practices for Situational Leadership as a Caregiver

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  • I care about my people so much that I’ve started absorbing their personal crises and trying to fix their lives, and I can’t tell anymore where being a supportive manager stops and me overstepping into someone I shouldn’t be begins.
  • Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
  • Everyone brings their problems to me to solve, I jump in and fix each one, and now I’m the bottleneck for everything while my people never grow
  • Someone on my team is underperforming and I keep collapsing the two things together
  • Everything still flows through me

Practices that may help

  1. Situational Leadership, Made Practical
    Situational Leadership, developed by Paul Hersey and Ken Blanchard, says the right leadership style depends on the follower’s readiness for a given task: match how much you direct versus support to where the person actually is. It is enormously popular in corporate training, but its empirical support is genuinely weak — treat it as a useful thinking tool, not a validated law.
  2. Supporting — step back on direction, stay high on support
    For the capable-but-cautious performer, lighten the instructions and bolster their confidence.
    Situational Leadership, Made Practical
  3. Know where care ends and overreach begins
    Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
  4. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
    Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
  5. Give the work back without abandoning people
    Resist taking ownership of problems that belong to the people facing the adaptive challenge.
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  6. Lead with empathy and acceptance
    Accept the person fully even while refusing to accept poor performance.
    Servant Leadership, Made Practical
  7. Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
    Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  8. Delegating — hand over both direction and decision
    With a skilled, committed performer, give the goal and the authority, then get out of the way.
    Situational Leadership, Made Practical
  9. Coaching — high direction and high support for the disillusioned learner
    When early enthusiasm dips but skill is still forming, combine clear guidance with active encouragement.
    Situational Leadership, Made Practical
  10. Build the flexibility to switch styles
    The skill the model actually demands is style range — most leaders overuse one default.
    Situational Leadership, Made Practical

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