Coaching practices for Slow Speaking Technique

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• When I’m nervous I talk fast and high and pile on "um" and "sorry" and "I think maybe"
• I can feel the conversation revving up
• The other person is getting louder and faster and I can feel myself about to match their heat and make it worse
• When someone’s talking to me I want them to feel like I’m actually catching what they’re saying, but everything I try comes out as another question and it starts to feel like an interrogation.
• In conversations that matter I run out of things to say and end up filling the silence or jumping in with my own take

Practices that may help

1. Use voice pacing and tone as accessible, real-time confidence levers
   Speaking slowly, at moderate volume, with deliberate pauses signals confidence to listeners — and partially to yourself.
   Power Posing Revisited
2. Regulate your tone
   A calm, downward, unhurried voice slows everyone’s nervous system, including yours.
   Tactical Empathy
3. The calm “late-night FM DJ” voice
   Use a slow, warm, downward-inflecting voice to steady the other person’s nervous system.
   Never Split the Difference, In Practice
4. Use simple reflections to confirm you heard correctly
   Repeat the key word or phrase back as a gentle check, not as a question.
   Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method
5. Mirror the last few words of what someone just said
   Repeat the final one to three words as a question — then stay silent.
   Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
6. Communicate effectively with Steadiness-style people
   Be patient, predictable, and give them time to process — don’t rush their decision.
   DISC Behavioral Styles
7. Use silence intentionally
   Resist the urge to fill pauses — silence gives the speaker room to go deeper.
   Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method
8. Use instructional self-talk for precision skill tasks
   Use short technical cues that direct attention to the key movement parameter rather than the outcome.
   Self-Talk Strategies, Made Practical
9. Mirroring
   Repeat the last few words the other person said, as a question, then go silent.
   Never Split the Difference, In Practice
10. Slow Living, Made Practical
    Slow living is the deliberate choice to move through life at an intentional pace — doing fewer things with more presence instead of maximizing throughput. It grew out of the Slow Food movement and is best understood mechanistically: pace is a lever on attention and savoring, not a clinically proven treatment.

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