Coaching practices for Speech Pacing Anxiety

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• When I’m nervous I talk fast and high and pile on "um" and "sorry" and "I think maybe"
• When I try to silently read my steadying words mid-panic, the anxious voice in my head just talks right over them in the same channel
• I’m anxious and keyed up but I can still follow along
• I’m about to walk in and my heart is pounding, hands cold, mind racing
• Right before I walk into the presentation I’m jittery and small, and I want a quiet minute on my own to physically settle into feeling steady and grounded, so all the prep I did actually shows up instead of getting swallowed by nerves.

Practices that may help

1. Use voice pacing and tone as accessible, real-time confidence levers
   Speaking slowly, at moderate volume, with deliberate pauses signals confidence to listeners — and partially to yourself.
   Power Posing Revisited
2. Read the card out loud in the moment — not in your head
   When distress spikes, read the card aloud or whisper it — externalizing disrupts the internal anxiety loop.
   The Coping Card
3. Paced breathing: make the exhale longer than the inhale
   Breathe in for 4 counts, out for 6–8 — the extended exhale activates the parasympathetic nervous system.
   TIPP: DBT’s Crisis Skill for Rapidly Lowering Emotional Intensity
4. Havening to clear pre-performance anxiety
   Run a short havening sequence before a high-stakes event to lower physiological anxiety.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
5. Set your posture before high-stakes moments
   Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
6. Build scripts for situation entry and transitions
   Prepare simple, natural openers and transitions so you’re not improvising from scratch under pressure.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
7. Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is the same, the performance effect is not.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
8. Write about your worries before a high-stakes performance
   Offload performance anxiety by writing it out in full immediately before the event.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
9. Internalize the rhythm to breathe without a pacer
   Practice with a pacer until the five-breaths-per-minute rhythm becomes automatic without counting.
   Coherent Breathing, Made Practical
10. Standardize the duration of your routine
    Fix the length of your pre-performance sequence so timing does not become a pressure variable.
    Pre-Performance Routines, Made Practical

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