Coaching practices for Stated vs Actual Values

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Stated vs Actual Values, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I say I value family, or health, or creativity
• I’m not sure my stated values are real or just the ones I think I should have
• I assume my spending more or less reflects what I care about, but I’ve never actually tested it
• I say family and health are what matter most to me, but if you looked at my actual calendar this week you’d never guess it
• I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely

Practices that may help

1. Values clarification through lived evidence
   Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
2. Excavate your actual values from your history
   Use past choices and sacrifices — not aspirations — to find what you actually value.
   Life Review and Reminiscence Therapy
3. Elicit your actual values before looking at your budget
   Write your top five values without looking at your bank statement — then compare the two.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
4. Audit your time against your values
   Compare where your hours actually go to the values you say you hold.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
5. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
   Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
6. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
7. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
8. Rate your current position in each domain
   Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
9. Run an annual values-spending alignment review
   Review your spending against your values once a year — values shift, and so should the allocation.
   Values-Based Spending, Made Practical
10. Take value-consistent committed action
    Translate each value into one concrete behavior you can do this week.
    Values Clarification, Made Practical

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