Coaching practices for I Stand Up and Tell My Team What We Value but I've Started to Wonder Whether My Own Choices Actually Match the Words and I Suspect They Can See the Gap Between What I Preach and What I Do Even When I Can't

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• I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
• I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
• I say I value family, or health, or creativity
• I keep telling myself I’m basically living in line with what I care about, but if I’m brutally honest about my actual behavior the last couple of weeks, I suspect I’m way further from the center than I let myself admit

Practices that may help

1. Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
   Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
2. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
   Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
3. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
4. Values clarification through lived evidence
   Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
   Svadhyaya: Self-Study as a Daily Practice
5. Rate your current position in each domain
   Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
6. Make core values operational, not decorative
   Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
   The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus
7. Use the Why as a decision filter
   A stated Why that doesn’t actually filter decisions is just branding — the Why has to determine the choices.
   Start With Why: Leading Through Purpose
8. Audit your time against your values
   Compare where your hours actually go to the values you say you hold.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
9. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
10. There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
    The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
    Extreme Ownership, Made Practical

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