Coaching practices for Teaching Feelings Vocabulary

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m realizing my whole emotional vocabulary is about five words, so everything that isn’t happy just gets dumped into "bad"
• My child has these huge feelings with no words for them
• Someone asks how I’m doing and all I’ve got is "fine" or "stressed," and even to myself that’s as far as it goes
• Every feeling I have collapses into the same three words
• The person across from me is clearly churning with some big feeling

Practices that may help

1. The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
   The Feeling Wheel, developed by counselor Gloria Willcox in 1982, is a visual tool that organizes emotions in concentric rings from six core emotions (glad, mad, sad, scared, disgusted, powerful) outward to increasingly specific nuanced feelings. It helps people name their emotional experience more precisely — a capacity research calls emotional granularity — which is associated with better emotional regulation and reduced distress.
2. Expand your emotional range by studying the outer rings
   Spend 5 minutes with the outer ring of the Feeling Wheel weekly, learning the names of emotions you do not yet use.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
3. Help the child label the emotion with words
   Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
4. Daily emotion naming with the Feeling Wheel
   Each day, use the Feeling Wheel to name your emotional state with at least one layer of precision beyond the core word.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
5. Expand your feelings vocabulary
   Deliberately learn and use a wider range of emotion words than "good" and "bad".
   Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
6. Label the emotion
   Name the feeling you’re sensing — "It sounds like this feels unfair" — to take its heat down.
   Tactical Empathy
7. Identifying and expressing feelings
   Name the actual emotion underneath, distinct from thoughts disguised as feelings.
   Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Made Practical
8. Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
   Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
9. Name the emotion in plain words
   Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
10. Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
    Affect labeling means describing what you feel in words ("I notice anxiety, tight in my chest"). Naming an emotion reliably dials down its intensity, and neuroimaging research links the act of labeling to reduced amygdala reactivity and increased prefrontal engagement. The effect is modest and works best as a regulation skill, not a cure for severe distress.

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