Coaching practices for Tell the Story Feelings

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • There’s a story I want to talk through but every time I start telling it I lead with the most intense part and my body floods before I get three sentences in
  • I’ve told my own story so many times it’s become this smooth, inevitable arc with no doubt in it
  • My storytelling stays at the level of "a significant challenge during a difficult period," and it just slides past people without leaving a mark
  • Someone does one small thing and within seconds I’ve built a whole story about what it means
  • The day they died still plays in my head in jagged pieces

Practices that may help

  1. Titrate the story — tell only the edges of a difficult narrative
    When a story feels too big to tell fully, tell only its outer layer — what you noticed before it escalated — rather than the most intense part.
    Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical
  2. Share the messy version, not the edited highlight reel
    The over-polished version of your story creates distance; the real version creates connection.
    The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
  3. Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description
    The details that trigger imagery are the ones that produce transportation — vague language doesn’t.
    Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical
  4. Master your stories
    Separate the facts from the story you’re telling about them before you react.
    Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
  5. Retell the story of the death and its aftermath
    Construct a coherent, detailed narrative of the loss — including your experience before, during, and after.
    Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
  6. Do the discovery with a partner
    Have someone listen for the themes you can’t hear in your own stories.
    Find Your Why, Made Practical
  7. Structure the story as a transformation, not a summary
    The protagonist (you, your customer, your team) should be different at the end than at the beginning.
    Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical
  8. Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
    Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
  9. Close with a specific call to action, not a summary
    A story landing on "so we should all…" is more powerful than a bullet-point recap.
    Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical
  10. Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical
    When listeners become absorbed in a narrative, their counter-argument generation drops and attitudes shift toward the story’s perspective — a process called narrative transportation. Experimental research confirms that well-crafted stories can be more persuasive than equivalent statistical evidence, particularly for value-laden or identity-relevant topics.

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