Coaching practices for Telling My Boss That I Have Tiredness Issues

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• The people close to me can’t see how little I have left, so every time I need to beg off something I’m bracing for a whole exhausting explanation or the look that says I’m flaking
• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
• My boss is clearly frustrated and I can feel it, but naming their feeling out loud to someone above me feels presumptuous, even risky
• I tell everyone I’m fine on five hours and I genuinely don’t feel tired anymore, but I keep wondering if I’ve just gotten used to running on empty

Practices that may help

1. Communicate your spoon count to people who need to know
   Give people close to you a shorthand for your available capacity, so they can adjust expectations without requiring a medical explanation each time.
   Spoon Theory, Made Practical
2. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
3. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
4. Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
   Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
   Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
5. Aim for sufficient sleep duration
   Give yourself a realistic time-in-bed window most adults need, instead of running a deficit.
   Why We Sleep, Translated Into Practice
6. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
   Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
7. Go to bed only when sleepy, not just tired
   Learn to distinguish genuine sleepiness from tiredness and wait for the former before going to bed.
   Stimulus Control for Sleep
8. Name frustrations without shame
   Frustrations are not weaknesses — they’re a mismatch signal that the team can act on.
   The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
9. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
   Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
10. Counteract occupational sitting with deliberate after-hours NEAT
    Desk workers who add deliberate after-hours walking substantially reduce the mortality risk associated with prolonged occupational sitting.
    NEAT Thermogenesis

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