Coaching practices for Telling Style

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• There’s this blunt, impatient person I deal with who cuts me off the second I start giving context
• I keep walking into important conversations and just launching in the way that feels natural to me, and it lands wrong
• There’s this blunt, results-only person I deal with who visibly tunes out the second I start laying groundwork
• I bring my careful facts and figures to this big-picture, high-energy person and watch their eyes glaze over
• There’s a story I want to talk through but every time I start telling it I lead with the most intense part and my body floods before I get three sentences in

Practices that may help

1. Adapt to Drivers: be direct, results-focused, and brief
   With high-assertiveness, low-responsiveness people, lead with the bottom line and leave out the social warmup.
   Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate
2. Identify the other person’s preferred style before speaking
   Read how someone prefers to receive information before deciding how to deliver it.
   The Platinum Rule
3. Communicate effectively with Dominance-style people
   Lead with the bottom line, be brief, and make the decision pathway clear.
   DISC Behavioral Styles
4. Adapt to Expressives: lead with energy, vision, and big picture
   With high-assertiveness, high-responsiveness people, match their enthusiasm and connect to the larger story.
   Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate
5. Titrate the story — tell only the edges of a difficult narrative
   When a story feels too big to tell fully, tell only its outer layer — what you noticed before it escalated — rather than the most intense part.
   Titration in Somatic Practice, Made Practical
6. Use concrete sensory detail, not abstract description
   The details that trigger imagery are the ones that produce transportation — vague language doesn’t.
   Storytelling for Persuasion, Made Practical
7. Read behavioral cues before you communicate
   Observe pace, directness, and relationship-focus before deciding how to open.
   DISC Behavioral Styles
8. Disclose your own style preferences to others
   Tell people how you best receive information — so they can Platinum-Rule you back.
   The Platinum Rule
9. STATE your path
   Share your view honestly but in a way that keeps the other person open: facts first, then story, tentatively.
   Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
10. Bridge the style gap explicitly
    Name the difference in communication style directly rather than trying to adapt silently.
    High-Context and Low-Context Communication

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